My precious, sweet granddaughter needs help! Please post your advice, experiences and comments so that Tori can read this everyday and be given confidence. My first advice to Tori is to remember that she has more people who love her then one little bully. She has her family, her friends who are kind and Jesus. When the bully is doing things to make you feel bad, picture all of us in your mind and then you will instantly feel better. In this photograph, Tori was sealed in the temple to her parents and the rest of us in the Redlands, California Temple (May 2009). What a special day and a wonderful vacation to California.
Dear Tori,
ReplyDeleteI am your Grandmother, Robin's, Aunt Carol. I have had experiences with bullies or people who would do me or my family harm. Here is what I do -- I first pray to our heavenly Father in Jesus' name that He would change the person. only He knows our hearts -- if the person is not willing to change I ask God to remove them from my life. I don't tell God how to do the removing but, only trust that he will. Here are three examples: we once had an adult neighbor who was being mean to my daughter. We prayed this way and within one or two weeks they moved out of our neighborhood! Another time my husband was being unfairly targeted by his boss. We prayed this way and the boss was transferred to another store! Another time my daughter, Stacie, was beginning to go with the wrong crowd. One by one the Lord would take people out of Stacie's life who were not good for her. On and on it has gone so, I would encourage you to talk to your parents and see if they would pray with you this way. The biggest thing you can do is to trust Jesus to see you through this situation. Your Grandma has our e-mail address. Write and let me know how this turns out. I hope to meet you someday! Take care of yourself and make good choices.
Love,
Aunt Carol
Hey Tori, I think she is bulling you because she wants to be your friend, so don't let her get to you, there will always be someone that will bully you sometime in your life, just remember that you have a very big family that loves you and many special talents just focus on those, like Aunt Carol said she will adventually be removed from your life.
ReplyDeletewe love you and hope you can find a good friend soon
Aunt Natalie
Hi Tori,
ReplyDeleteI'm your mom's Aunt Marty. When I was a little girl I had some friends who were all in a different school class than me. Suddenly they started "forgetting" to wait for me after school, and I had to walk home alone. They left me in the morning, too. At recess they started making fun of what I wore, and my bike, my lunchbox, and one of them pushed me off the swing "accidently" and my knee was all banged up and bleeding. I started to be afraid of them.
My mom helped me realize that I could do things without them. I got a camera and learned to take pictures, and I read lots of books. But I still wanted some friends. They had made me feel embarrassed and shy so I was afraid to make new friends.
Mom told me to watch for people who were sitting alone at lunch, or playing alone at recess and just go up and say, "Hey, do you want to play?" It was hard at first, but I made some new friends. The bullies started to leave me alone because it wasn't so fun to torture me when I wasn't crying and afraid of them.
After a few years passed, some of the bullies got nicer and we became friends again. I couldn't ever really trust them, though, because I remembered how they'd hurt my feelings. I vowed to be a better friend than that.
Hard times teach us good lessons. I learned lots of new activities I could enjoy on my own, how to make new friends, and how to be a good friend. I found out that bullies aren't worth wasting time on. It's sad to sit feeling left out when you could be having fun with nicer people. The bullies lose when you move on with your life.
Good luck. There are lots of people you don't even know who want you to be happy. And lots of people who NEED you to give them happiness by being a good friend.
Love, Aunt Marty